If you keep living the way you are, what will your life look like in 20 years?

I am now 25 and what it will look like when i am 45 

  1. Have take care of my body and mind and always improving i will be looking like i am 20 when i am 45 thanks to schedule 
  2. I have published 100 of blog and tried many creative thing and made some income and had proud of myself that i was not the consumer but the producer at least i have put out something and i was no talk but action  
  3. I have read 100’s of may be 1000’s  of book that made me fight difficult situation and lived more peaceful life than 99% of the population 
  4. I am standing pillar of my family who looked toward me and said thanks god we had him
  5. I had some bad times real bad time but i had the courage to get out and find my way back and find the difficult situation to be the most rewarding in the long run 
  6. I know what people are looking for and i have always developed skills  
  7. I had loved my wife more than any other thing 
  8. I had made more money than i had destined to 
  9. I had great relation with my family and friends
  10. I was not the one to shy away from the having to show feelings 
  11. I had traveled world read history philosophy and had found meaning in creating things and in difficult situation 
  12. My schedule made me the man i wanted to be i really grateful at 25 i had stared following schedule and i was the one who had the achieved anything by doing atomic habit 
  13. I am a master at JavaScript because of atomic habit and I have achieved most people dreaming at 20 and doing the same dreaming at 45.

Sometimes we need patience. Sometimes we need action.

Thanks to james clear of amazing book Atomic Habit and great newsletter

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By Saurabh R kacholiya
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Meaning of life by Viktore Frankl

What is Philosophy ? 

      Attitude that acts as a guiding principle for behaviour.

What is an analogy?

      A thing which is comparable to something else in significant respects.

Preface:-

  1. Everything can be taken away from you, your education, your wealth, anything but still you possess one thing and that is the freedom to choose how you respond to any situation. You cannot control what happens to you in life but, you can always control how you will feel and respond.
  1. Our current mental-hygiene philosophy stresses on the idea that people ought to be happy, that unhappiness is a symptom of maladjustment. Such a value system might be responsible for the fact that, the burden of unavoidable unhappiness is increased
    “He is not only unhappy but also ashamed of being unhappy”

How will this post serve you ? 

  • How was Viktore able to take his suffering and turn it into a life changing book that inspired millions of people? His “why?” made him come back alive from 5 concentration camps that is to meet his wife, to write manuscript (logotherapy) and this book is a piece of art and new world to psychology. 
  • This post tries to give you an insight into the book Man’s search for meaning.
  • It may help you find the meaning of life and see the world from a new perspective.
  • how to see things when we don’t see the future
  • The power to react ( respond ) to any situation is your choice

ANALOGY :- 

To Draw an analogy, a man suffering is similar to the behaviour of gas. If a certain quantity of gas is pumped into an empty chamber it will fill the chamber. Thus suffering completely fills the human soul and conscious mind no matter whether the suffering is great or little therefore the ‘SIZE’ of human suffering is absolutely relative.

Story Death in Tehran :- 

A rich and mighty Persian once walked in his garden with one of his servants. The servant cried that he had just encountered Death, who had threatened him. He begged his master to give him his fastest horse so that he could make haste and flee to Teheran, which he could reach that same evening. The master consented and the servant galloped off on the horse. On returning to his house the master himself met Death, and questioned him, “Why did you terrify and threaten my servant?” “I did not threaten him; I only showed surprise in still finding him here when I planned to meet him tonight in Teheran,” said Death.

What does this story mean?
A simple explanation would be , Be careful what you wish for, you might just get it
Or Getting Something you think you want can have unexpected consequences Or our life is already decided by something we can’t control 

Different Interpretation :- 

If there is a meaning in life at all then there must be a meaning in suffering And death. Suffering is an ineradicable part of life much like fate and death. Without suffering and death human life cannot be complete. Turning away or running form a problem rarely solves it, the parable serves as a meditation on fate and death and the way we chose to face both 

After camp one incident shared by Viktore in the book that brings chills down my spine : – 

Long after Viktore had resumed normal life (that means a long time after viktore release from camp), somebody showed Viktore an illustrated weekly with photographs of prisoners lying crowded on their bunks, staring dully at a visitor. “Isn’t this terrible, the dreadful staring faces—everything

about it.”

“Why?” Viktore asked, for Viktore genuinely did not understand. At that moment Viktore saw it all again: at 5:00 A.M. it was still pitch dark outside. He was lying on the hard boards in a Concentration Camp earthen hut where about seventy of them were “taken care of.”

We were sick and did not have to leave camp for work; we did not have to go on parade. We could lie all day in our little corner in the hut and doze and wait for the daily distribution of bread (which, of course, was reduced for the sick) and for the daily helping of soup (watered down and

also decreased in quantity). But how content we were; happy in spite of everything. While we cowered against each other to avoid any unnecessary loss of warmth, and were too lazy and disinterested to move a finger unnecessarily, we heard shrill whistles and shouts from the square where the night shift had just returned and was assembling for roll call. The door was flung open, and the snowstorm blew into our hut. An exhausted comrade, covered with snow, stumbled inside to sit down for a few minutes. But the senior warden turned him out again. It was strictly forbidden to admit a stranger to a hut while a check-up on the man was in progress. How sorry I was for that fellow and how glad not to be in his skin at that moment, but instead to be sick and able to doze on in the sick quarters! What a lifesaver it was to have two days there, and perhaps even two extra days after those All this came to my mind when I saw the photographs in the magazine. 

When I explained, my listeners understood why I did not find the photograph so terrible: the people shown on it might not have been so unhappy after all

Meaning of life ( if you haven’t read above paragraphs please read it will  serve as base to the Viktore philosophy )

  • What was really needed was a fundamental change in our attitude towards life. We had to learn ourselves and, furthermore, we had to teach the despairing men that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life—daily and hourly. Our answer must consist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual

How to Find Meaning in Life :- 

  1. By creating work or doing a deed.
  2. By experiencing something or encountering someone.
  3. By the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering.

The first :- The way of achievement or accomplishment, is quite obvious. 

The second:- 

Finding a meaning in life is by experiencing something—such as goodness, truth and beauty —by experiencing nature and culture or, last but not least, by experiencing another human being in his very uniqueness;—by loving him.

The Third:- 

When we are no longer able to change a situation— just think of an incurable disease such as inoperable cancer —we are challenged to change ourselves.

Let me cite a clear-cut example form the book:- 

Once, an elderly general practitioner consulted me(Viktore) because of his severe depression. He could not overcome the loss of his wife who had died two years ago and whom he had loved above all else. Now, how could I help him? What should I tell him? Well, I refrained from telling him anything but instead confronted him with the question, “What would have happened, Doctor, if you had died first, and your wife would have had to survive you?” “Oh,” he said, “for her this would have been terrible; how she would have suffered!” Whereupon I replied, “You see, Doctor, such suffering has been spared her, and it was you who have spared her this suffering—to be sure, at the price that now you have to survive and mourn her.” He said no word but shook my hand and calmly left my office. In some way, suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice.

Note :-  

But let me make it perfectly clear that in no way is suffering necessary to find meaning. I only insist that meaning is possible even in spite of suffering—provided, certainly, that the suffering is unavoidable. If it were avoidable, however, the meaningful thing to do would be to remove its cause, be it psychological, biological or political. To suffer unnecessarily is masochistic rather than heroic

by:- Saurabh Ramesh Kacholiya 

Edited by :- Kalyani Patil

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हौसला

ना वक़्त तेरा था , ना वक़्त मेरा था ।।
ये कैसा दौर था , जो हमने गुजारा था ।।

वक़्त तेरा भी आएगा , वक़्त मेरा भी आएगा ।।
वो भी क्या दौर होगा , जो हमने गुजारा होगा ।।

खो गया तू , मुझे गवारा कर के।।
ये क्या क‌हॅ गया , तू मुझे बेसराहा कर के ।।

“हौसला रख वक़्त आये गा । सीधे तेरे पाँव पकड़ने , तेरा वक़्त बदलने ।। ”

By Saurabh Ramesh Kacholiya

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Khwab

Ek khwab me bhi khwab dekha
tujko phir apne sath dekha

na jane kyu lagte hai ye zindagi adhuri
ye konsa manzar hai jo humne nahi dekha

na jane konse kahane rahe gaye adhuri ?
humne khud ko essbar thandi aash lete dekha

ye zindagi kese hai ye waqt kesa hai?
jab tha sab kuch karne ko tab lagta tha waqt nahi
ab jab waqt hai karne ko aab lagta hai nahi kuch kar ne ko

humara khwab tutgaya aur phir se din shuru hogaya….

By Saurabh Ramesh Kacholiya
edited by Yashodeep Ramesh Kacholiya

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ठिकाना

मुद्दातोकी मशक्कत के बाद मेरा तेरेपास आना हुआ,
ना मेरा ठिकाना हुआ ना तेरा ठिकाना हुआ ।

by Saurabh R Kacholiya
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कलम

मेरी कलम मानो खुदा की जुबान हो गए
में लिखता गया और सच मेरी कहानी होगाए

by Saurabh R Kacholiya
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ये काफिला ऐसेही चालता रहा।

दिक्काते दर्द ए मुश्किल तो आती रही,
मैं हर बार खुद को कोसता रहा |

तकलिफे आती रही,
मैं हर बार उनसे भागता रहा ।

गुन्हा किया एक बार ,
पचतावा बार बार करता रहा ।

वो ख्वाब देखता रहा जो मेरा था ही नाही ,
वो रेत पकडता रहा जो हाथसे छूटती रही ।

वो तन्हाही में जिता रहा जिस्का कोई मंजर नाही,
वो चेहरा देखता रहा जीसका कोई वजुत नाही ।

वो दर्द जो सिने में था, उसे खुरेताता रहा
वो सारी गलतिया बार बार करता रहा ।

हर तुटते दिलं के बाद फिरसे उम्मिद देखता रहा ,
इस आशिक दिलं को मजबूत करता रहा ।

और ये काफिला ऐसेही चालता रहा।

by Saurabh R Kacholiya
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Nayi Manzil Pe Aa to gaya…!!

Ye kaisa safar hai Zindagi ka yaha,
kahi se jana chaho to ye jane nahi deta,
Aur kahi nayi jagah aao to dil nahi lagane dete.

Ab nayi manzil pe aa to gaye,
is baat ki khushi hai.
bas ye manzil bhi apna le yahi khwaish hai.

alag maqam alag log hai alag inki aadat hai,
bas ye log bhi apna le is baat ki khwahish hai

hum hamesha dusro ke apnane ki chaa rakhte hai,
lekin is baar hum khud ko apna le yahi khwahish hai.

Is nai jagah pe nai yadein hai aur yaha ke bhid bhad wali zindagi hai,
kabhi virane me purane yaadein yaad aa jaye,
is chehre pe muskan aa jaye bas yahi khwahish hai..

Yaad to hame unki bahut aate hai kya unko bhi humare yaad aate hai?
is jawab ko janane ki khwahish hai..

ab bas ye pal ko jeena sekh le bas yahi khwahish hai..!!

by Saurabh R Kacholiya
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ye sher ek leken sab ko sunnae ke khwaesha hazar.

Chehra ek, naqaab hazar.
Manzil ek, raste hazar.

Rahe ek, raha me milene wale hazar.
Mere kahane ek, leken mere sath hadse hue hazar.

Me admi ek, leken mene galtiya ki hazar.
Maut ek, leken kese ke leya marne ke khwaesha hazar.

Zindagi ek, leken sabke zindagi jene ke khwaesha hazar.
Pura hua sapna ek, leken sab sapne ke pura hone ke khwaesha hazar

Me admi ek, aur mere chahne wale hazar.
Me shayar ek, leken mere shayari hazar.

Dil ki dhadkan ek, dhadkane wale hazar.
Me meehboob ek, leken mere meehbooba hazar.
Aur ye sher ek, leken sab ko sunnae ke khwaesha hazar.

Translation:-

One face, a thousand masks.
One destination, a thousand paths.

One road, a thousand co-travellers.
My one story, with a thousand disasters.

I am one man, who’s made a thousand mistakes.
I’ll die one death, but for you I’d give a thousand re-takes.

One life, but we wish for a thousand more.
One dream fulfilled, but a thousand wishes for the rest in store.

I am one man who’s got a thousand admirers.
I am one poet, who’s written a thousand verses.

One heart, but a thousand reasons for it to beat.
I am one lover, who’s got a thousand lovers.
And this is one poem, but a thousand desires for all to read.

by Saurabh R Kacholiya
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Translated by :-  Shreya Vohra
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Waqt ki mohabbat

Apne mēhboob ko chhod ke aap khuda ke taraf chaldeya,
Lekin ye to bhul gaye aap ka khuda to mēhboob hi tha.

Kise aur ke chhod ke chale jane ka kisko parva,
Asle qayamat to kise apne ka chhod ke jana,
Aur vo tanhaie ka waqt gujarna.

Isleya mohabbat hona to aisi hona,
Waqt gujre lekin waqt guzar ne ka ehsaas na ho.
Sath chutna to aisi chutna,
Tanhai ko bhi nahi samjna.

By:- Saurabh Ramesh kacholiya
Pic credit :- Kalyani Patil.

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Jazbato ka safarnama.

Log kehte hai,’Ek shayar ki shayari
ka maza tab aata hai, jab koi uska dil tod ke chale jaye.’

Leken uss shayari ka kya maza jo
kisike aane se ya jaane se likhi ho?

Hum likhte hai toh logon ke
jazbaton ko samhajne ke liya.

Hum wo shayar hai jo apni zingadi ke
utar chadhavo ke sath dusro ke
uthar chadhavo ko samhaj ne ke chah rakhte hai,
unke jazbato ko apne shabdo mein bayan karne ki chah rakhte hai.

Kehete hai ki ek aurat ka mann samundar
ki tarha ghera hota hai, jise samajhna muskil hai.
Leken inhi ghere jazbato ko,
shabdo me bayan karna ek shayar ki shayari hai.

by Saurabh R Kacholiya
Edited by:- Kalyani Patil.
Pic credit :- Kalyani Patil.

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Yeh zindagi toh shabdo ka khel hai.

Kya hai shayari, Kaun hai shayar?
Kya hai kavita, Kaun hai kavi?

Kyu kuch shabd aap ke mann ko bha jate hai,
Aur kyu kuch shabd aap sun kar unsuna kar dete ho.

Kya hai jazbaat, Kaun hai insaan?
Kyu kuch shabd kisi ko hasa dete hai,
Aur kyu vahi shabd kisi ko rula dete hai.

Do wakya sahi to shayari,
Aur do wakya galat to gair.
Yeh zindagi toh shabdo ka khel hai,
Aur is khel ke aap khiladi.

by Saurabh R Kacholiya.
Edited by:- Kalyani Patil.
Pic credit :- Kalyani Patil.

 

 

 

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humare jivan me aapka koi mulya nahi.

Ye baat to sach Hai ki hum tumhe bhula nahi sakte.
[This is true that I cannot forget you]

Ye bhi baat sach Hai ki tum ne hamare dil pe jo lakir khinch di vo hum kabhi mita nahi sakte.
[This is also true the scar you have drawn on my heart that I cannot remove it]

Leken ye baat bhi sach Hai ki tum humare yaado me hi thik ho.
[But one thing Is also true that you are only as good as in my dreams]

Humare jivan me aapka koi mulya nahi.
[In my life you have no value, your existence is meaningless or vague]

by :- Saurabh R Kacholiya.

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Thodi Se Mohobaat To Unko Bhi Chaaye

Kisine hum se kaha ke hum unke bareme kuch batayein
iss pe hum ne kaha:-

Humare jazbaaton ko lafzo se kya izhar karenge
Ye kahani abhi toh shuru hui hai ise kya bayaan karenge
Dekh ke unnko zoro se dhadak jata hai dil
Na jaane jab saamne aayenge to kis taraha izhar karenge

Hum likhte bhi hai dar dar ke ab
Unhe ye shayari kaise sunaenge

Unke khubsurti to bas ek chhalava hai
Hum to shayad dekh te hi rahe jayenge

Vo aankhon ko jo dekh lo to aap bhul jaoge.. aap kaun ho
Unhe hasta hua dekh lo to aap bhul jaoge aap kya kehnewale ho
Vo baalon ko dekho to aap ko pata chal jaye moh kya hai
Vo baali jo pehene aap use chhuna chaho

Ye shayari likhte hue hum unko hi yaad kiye ja a rahe hai
Unke hato se banayi hui rangoli ko dekhe ja rahe hain
Kis taraha unko apna banale ye soche ja rahe hain

Hum apne tarf se puri koshish karenge is me toh koi shak nahi
Lekin thodi se mohobbat to unko bhi ho jaye ye duva kare jaa rahe hain

by:- Saurabh R Kacholiya
pic credit:- Dr. Sangya Chaudhary

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